Dre McCray and Von McCray: Their complicated relationship dissected

The Von McCray saga has dumbfounded netizens as it seems his wife, Dre McCray, is milking his sad story for social media fame. Von McCray’s health struggles culminated in a suspected suicide attempt that left him with permanent brain damage. 

You’d expect a person’s wife to be in mourning following her husband’s suicide attempt. However, Dre McCray doesn’t seem dejected: she’s posting her usual stuff with Von conspicuously placed for her to attract views. Dre’s banking on people’s sympathy for Von to attract social media attention. 

Von and Dre’s marriage seemed happy, but it was a facade

Marvin ‘Von’ and Andrea ‘Dre’ McCray married around eight years ago. Von was in his early 20s, marrying a lady with two children from a previous relationship. 

Von joined the Marine Corps and served for a while before being discharged due to a knee injury. Dre launched a social media career, mostly involving makeup tutorials. 

The couple welcomed a son and seemed to have a happy marriage. Dre posted videos on her former TikTok page, @xo.redroses, that gave the perception of a happy McCray household. 

However, according to posts on a Facebook page titled Exposed, Dre was a manipulative character. Von’s sister Rochelle wrote on Facebook:

“Out of respect for my brother we been letting shit slide for years bra!!! Yea you his wife but I’m his blood – we are his blood!!! I got a nephew I don’t even know because you have kept them all always from us for so many years!!!”

According to a post from someone who knew Von, Dre denied him access to cash, social media, family, and friends. Von reportedly wanted Dre to seek assistance for her mental health issues. 

The friend said Von’s behavior changed after he started seeing a therapist in 2019. Dre told police something similar, alleging that Von became verbally abusive after starting therapy sessions.

However, the friend says Von started clashing with Dre because he began to stand up for himself. The post reads:

“Yes, Vonny’s behavior towards her started to shift in 2019. He began standing up for himself and not just taking the shit. Perhaps Dr. Dxx gave him the confidence to do so. So naturally, it’s Dr. Dxx’s fault for ‘making Vonny change.’ No, maam.”

Von stopped seeing the therapist, but the couple’s arguments continued. 

Von started having seizures, which Dre treated with herbs

“Before and during 2019, he never had seizures,” the friend wrote. “He was physically healthy and fit and active. He had a healthy weight and color to him. Not the underweight and unhealthy looking person you see today.”

It is unclear why Von started having seizures, but some suspect Dre contributed to his decline. One of her TikTok videos posted on the Exposed page featured the following caption: “The last time I got mad – I acted on it and made him have a seizure.”

A concerned netizen sent the video to the police, and they promised to investigate. Von started getting seizures at around the time Dre began posting videos about a controversial vegan diet containing herbs like kratom and kava. 

The Exposed page contains evidence of Dre saying she’d heard bad things about kratom. However, she promoted the drug, likely because she made money from the sales. 

The DEA lists kratom as a Drug and Chemical of Concern, and the FDA hasn’t approved it for medicinal use. Yet, Dre fed Von the drug as he struggled with seizures instead of taking him to the hospital.

In one video, Dre said Von had experienced eight seizures in one day. He had a seizure as she recorded the video, but she kept filming instead of attending to him or calling emergency services. 

“I refuse to let my husband suffer and stay down,” Dre wrote on Facebook in late February 2022. However, her actions indicated she was willing to let Von suffer.